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Survey
of the American Rabbinate
The high and ever growing incidence of interfaith marriage
among American Jews is posing a difficult challenge
to the majority of American rabbis, forcing many into
a fundamental conflict between their religious convictions
and their desire to meet the needs of their congregants.
That is one of the central conclusions of a new national
survey sponsored by the Jewish Outreach Institute, an
independent educational and research organization working
to promote the Jewish continuity of interfaith families.
Close to half the rabbis responding to the survey indicated
that their attitudes toward intermarriage had undergone
change -- most toward greater accommodation of the needs
of the intermarried families -- as a result of the 1990
National Jewish Population Survey, which had shown that
more than half of Jews getting married since 1985 are
marrying someone who is not Jewish and fewer than a
third of those couples are committed to raising their
children as Jews.
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The present study is the first
scientific survey of the American rabbinate ever
undertaken on this critical issue. The study was
initiated and underwritten by the Levitt Foundation
of Minneapolis.
Rabbis are trained primarily as scholars and educators.
Yet, a significant part of their professional life
is taken up with the performance of ceremonial functions
associated with weddings, births and funerals. Because
Jewish law, known as halachah, prohibits
marriage between Jews and non-Jews, rabbis face
a dilemma when confronted by couples seeking to
be married by them when one of the prospective marriage
partners is not Jewish. In recent years each rabbinical
association (Reform, Conservative, Orthodox and
Reconstructionist) has addressed the issue of what
its members may or may not do for interfaith couples
seeking marriage officiation. The more traditional
movements (Conservative and Orthodox) have banned
any accommodation to interfaith couples seeking
rabbinic help in getting married. The more liberal
movements (Reform and Reconstructionist) have refrained
from mandating any particular course of action among
their members. Instead, they have permitted each
rabbi to follow the dictates of his or her own conscience
in the matter.
Recognizing the deep concerns of the American rabbinate
over the issue of interfaith marriage, The Levitt
Foundation took great pains to provide the research
team with the necessary support to assure the survey's
independence and scientific quality. The
research team responsible for the survey was headed
by Dr. Egon Mayer, Director of Research of the Jewish
Outreach Institute, and was carried out by the Center
for Jewish Studies of the Graduate School of the
City University of New York, with the assistance
of social scientists involved in the renowned 1990
National Jewish Population Survey.
The Sample
The rabbis in the sample were drawn at random from
the most current official directories of their respective
rabbinic associations, including The Rabbinical
Council of America (Orthodox), The Rabbinical Assembly
(Conservative), The Central Conference of American
Rabbis (Reform) and The Reconstructionist Rabbinical
Assembly.
The study questionnaire, which was sent to a representative
sample of six hundred and fifty (650)
pulpit rabbis, was prepared with the cooperation
of a series of rabbinic focus groups. These groups
included men and women rabbis of all ages, representing
each branch of the Judaism. Their guidance played
an important part in the formulation of the survey
questions to be asked of hundreds of their colleagues.
Table 1 presents the number of rabbis from each
branch of Judaism who were sent questionnaires.
Table 1
Number of Questionnaires Sent to Rabbis of
Each Branch of Judaism
|
Branch of Judaism
|
Number of
Questionnaires Sent |
| Orthodox |
100
|
| Conservative |
250
|
| Reform |
250
|
| Reconstructionist |
50
|
| TOTAL |
650
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By the second week of September, 1997, three
hundred and twenty five (325) completed
questionnaires were returned. Allowing for the
return of undeliverable surveys due to changes
of address, the survey resulted in a response
rate of over fifty percent (50%).
The high response rate to this mail survey is
but one indication of the great concern American
rabbis have about this issue.
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Profile of Respondents
The figures below summarize the
salient demographic characteristics of our survey
respondents. There is good reason to believe that
our sample of respondents is a fair representation
of the broad cross-section of the American rabbinate.
Table 2
Branch of Judaism & Sex of Respondents
|
Sex of Respondent
|
Orthodox |
Conservative |
Reform |
Reconstructionist |
Total |
| Male |
31 |
120 |
105 |
11 |
267
(86%) |
| Female |
0 |
10 |
20 |
12 |
42 (14%) |
| TOTAL |
31 |
130 |
125 |
23 |
309 (100%) |
| Percent of
Total |
10% |
42% |
40% |
8% |
N = 325
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NOTE: The remaining 16 rabbis
did not furnish this self-identifying information
The percentage distributions of rabbis by the
main branches of Judaism very nearly represent
the relative distribution of the American Jewish
population in those branches with an over representation
of the Reconstructionist (the smallest of the
branches of American Judaism) so as to allow us
to include a sufficient number of Reconstructionist
rabbis in our sample for analytic purposes. Orthodox
rabbis were also over-sampled, but relatively
fewer of them responded to the survey than rabbis
of any other group.
Based on the completed surveys, it might appear
that women make up about 14% of the rabbinate.
But the more appropriate percentage needs to be
calculated on each of the branches separately.
The Orthodox do not admit women into the rabbinate.
The Conservative movement only began to ordain
women in the mid 1980s and the Rabbinical Assembly
reports just 34 women out of 617 pulpit rabbis
in Conservative congregations. In a recent personal
communication Rabbi Elliot L. Stevens, Executive
Secretary of the Central Conference of American
Rabbis (Reform) reported that women make up roughly
14% of that organizations membership.
Thus, our sample has a larger proportion of women
than is characteristic of the rabbinate as a whole.
This fact might indicate a greater interest on
the part of women rabbis than of men in the issue
under consideration. Although we have no available
data concerning the overall age distribution of
the American rabbinate, we have no reason to believe
that the age distribution of our sample is anything
other than representative of the population of
rabbis.
Table 3
The age distribution of the sample
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Age Categories
|
Number |
Percent |
| 29 -
39 |
50 |
16 |
| 40 -
49 |
128 |
41 |
| 50 -
59 |
66 |
21 |
| 60 &
over |
69 |
22 |
| TOTAL |
313
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100 |
NOTE: The remaining 12
rabbis did not furnish this self-identifying
information
Completed survey questionnaires were received
from rabbis in thirty-two (32)
states. The table below summarizes their regional
distribution.
Table 4
Regional distribution of the sample
|
Region
|
Number |
Percent |
| Northeast |
181 |
56 |
| Midwest |
40 |
13 |
| South |
57 |
18 |
| West |
43 |
13 |
| TOTAL |
321
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100 |
NOTE: The remaining 4 rabbis did not
furnish this self-identifying information
Not surprisingly the majority of our sample
consists of rabbis from the Northeastern part
of the United States, where there continues
to be the highest concentration of the American
Jewish population.
Given the high value placed on marriage within
Judaism, it is also unsurprising to learn
that ninety-two percent (92%)
of respondents are currently married. Though,
fifteen percent (15%) of all
currently married rabbis were in second marriages.
About eight percent (8%) are
currently single. None of the respondents
to this survey reported being in an interfaith
marriage themselves. However, more than half
(59%) reported having cousins or other
distant relatives who are in interfaith marriages.
Nearly one quarter (23%) have siblings
who are or have been in an interfaith marriage
and about eighteen percent (18%)
report having nieces or nephews who are in
an interfaith marriage. Far fewer reported
having children or grandchildren in an interfaith
marriage.
Key Findings
Rabbis & Weddings
Interfaith marriage is both a practical and
symbolic issue in the life of a rabbi. On
the symbolic level, such marriage represents
the degree to which Jews have become integrated
into the wider society around them. Besides
being the ultimate symbol of social integration,
interfaith marriage also represents an omen
of impending loss -- the loss of Jewish identity.
When asked what they feel toward interfaith
couples, the most common feeling reported
by our respondents was "concern about
the couple's future. In explaining that sense
of "concern," many indicated that
they worried about how couples will be able
to reconcile their differences, raise children,
and find a shared community to belong to.
Overall, a high majority of rabbis (74%)
are concerned about the couples future.
Though only a minority (25%) of the
rabbis accept interfaith couples, the majority
of rabbis (54%) express empathy toward
them.
Quite apart from its symbolic significance,
interfaith marriage poses practical concerns
for most rabbis. The survey therefore focussed
first on how often rabbis deal with couples
getting married in general? That question
itself is more complex than one would think
because, as rabbis have informed us time and
again, "couples often shop around."
The "shopping around" occurs for
many reasons, stemming from considerations
of scheduling, geographic location and cost,
not to mention issues of family preferences
and differing levels of comfort between the
couple and any particular rabbi.
Rabbis report that on the average they officiate
at eleven (11) weddings a year altogether.
Most rabbis about eighty percent (80%)
do not officiate at a wedding where either
the bride or the groom is not of the Jewish
faith. Whether or not they officiate at an
interfaith wedding ceremony, however, ninety-six
percent (96%) say they will meet
with interfaith couples who are contemplating
marriage. Typically, those rabbis who do officiate
at interfaith wedding ceremonies report meeting
with many more interfaith couples (about ten
(10) per year) than those who do not
(about four (4) per year).
Interestingly, there is also a considerable
difference in the number of all weddings performed
by rabbis depending on whether they do or
do not officiate at the weddings of interfaith
couples. Among the rabbis who do officiate
at the weddings of interfaith couples the
median number of all weddings is twelve
(12), while among those who do not
officiate at such weddings the median of all
weddings performed is seven (7).
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The difference in the typical number of weddings
performed per year by rabbis who do officiate at
the weddings of interfaith couples in comparison
with those of their colleagues who do not is all
the more interesting when looked at in the context
of congregational size. The average size of congregations
of rabbis who do officiate at intermarriages
is smaller than those of their colleagues
who do not officiate at such weddings (300
and 450 membership units respectively). To the extent
that congregational size is also related to professional
prestige, it would seem that those rabbis who officiate
at interfaith marriages are also less likely to
enjoy the level of professional prestige enjoyed
by those of their colleagues who do not so.
The above findings further suggest that there may
be a considerable specialization in the American
rabbinate, with rabbis who are willing to officiate
at the weddings of interfaith couples performing
proportionally more weddings each year than those
of their colleagues who do no such officiation.
The disparity is undoubtedly also a reflection of
the demographic fact that interfaith couples are
more numerous among the newlyweds today than same-faith
Jewish couples. Therefore, the relatively few rabbis
who are willing to officiate at the weddings of
interfaith couples are likely to have a greater
demand for their services than the far many more
rabbis who do not.
Officiating at wedding services generally also
involves an honorarium for rabbis. More than half
(56%) report that they receive a honorarium
for officiating at the wedding of a member of their
congregation. That figure rises to 94% when
the question concerns officiation at the wedding
of someone who is not a member of the rabbi's own
congregation.
The median honorarium is $200 dollars for
a wedding of a synagogue member; for non-members
the reported median is $300 dollars. The
later figure actually masks an even greater discrepancy
when the wedding ceremony in question is that of
an interfaith couple. Although rabbis were not asked
directly whether they receive a higher honorarium
for the wedding ceremony of an interfaith couple
than for the wedding of a couple where both partners
are Jewish, the survey offers suggestive evidence
for that conclusion.
Table 5
Median amount of honorarium received
for performing a wedding ceremony
by whether the rabbi officiates
or not at intermarriages
|
Membership Status
|
Rabbi Officiates
Intermarriages |
Rabbi Doesn't
Officiate at Intermarriages |
| Members |
$175
|
$200
|
| Non-Members |
$350
|
$275
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Note: The calculation of the median amount of
dollars above refers only to rabbis who do receive
honorarium.
Since the survey did establish whether a rabbi
does or does not officiate at weddings that are
of interfaith couples, as well as the amount of
the typical honorarium received, it is quite easy
to find out what is the average amount of the
honorarium received by each category of rabbi.
The median honorarium received by rabbis who officiate
at interfaith wedding ceremonies where the couple
or their parents are members of the congregation
is $175 dollars. However, the median honorarium
rises to $350 dollars for rabbis who officiate
at interfaith couples when neither the bride,
nor the groom, nor either of their parents are
members of the rabbi's congregation. Rabbis who
do not officiate charge $200 of members
and $275 dollars of non-members. In short,
there appears to be an average of an extra $75
dollars paid by non-members for a wedding ceremony
(probably) involving a rabbi who officiates intermarriages.
Incidentally, these dollar amounts are very close
to what was found in a previous survey of interfaith
couples, conducted by the National Family Opinion
Corp. on behalf of the Jewish Outreach Institute
in 1995.
Differences Among the Movements
As is generally known and now substantiated by
the survey, there are sharp differences between
the rabbinates of the four major Jewish movements
with respect to the handling of interfaith candidates
for marriage. Among the Conservative and Reform
rabbinates, there is also considerable division
within each movement. Differences between as well
as within the movement are based primarily on
differing interpretations of the nature and primacy
of halachah, that is Jewish law. To some
degree the differences are also based on what
rabbis believe is in the best interest of the
Jewish community, their own congregation, and
of the couple and family whose personal concerns
they must deal with. The later concerns bear at
least some relationship to the number and proportion
of interfaith couples in the rabbi's own congregation.
As shown in the table below, there are significant
differences between the major movements with respect
to the prevalence of interfaith couples in the
congregation.
Table 6
Congregational Size and Percentage of Interfaith
Couples Among Congregants by Branch of Judaism
|
Branch of Judaism
|
Average Size
of Congregation |
Average Number
of Interfaith Couples |
Average Percent
Intermarried |
| Orthodox |
200 |
3 |
2 |
| Conservative |
451 |
21 |
5 |
| Reform |
521 |
92 |
18 |
| Reconstructionist |
211 |
49 |
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Rabbis are far more likely to encounter interfaith
couples in the congregational life of one branch
of Judaism than another. This fact might be the
cause or the consequence of the further fact that
rabbis also differ greatly in how they respond
to couples who are seeking their help in getting
married. In the sections that follow, the report
examines a variety of ways that rabbis interact
with interfaith couples who are seeking their
assistance or guidance with respect to marriage.
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(1) Officiation:
As Table 6 suggests, Reform and Reconstructionist
rabbis are far more likely to encounter interfaith
couples as members of their congregation than are
Orthodox or Conservative rabbis. What the relationship
might be between the presence of interfaith couples
in the congregation and the willingness of the rabbi
to officiate at the wedding ceremony of an interfaith
couple is not at all clear from the data. However,
as illustrated in Graph 1, Orthodox and Conservative
rabbis do not officiate marriage ceremonies of interfaith
couples under any circumstance. The pattern is less
consistent among Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis.
In fact, the majority of Reconstructionist rabbis
perform intermarriages. Typically, those rabbis
who do officiate at the wedding ceremony of an interfaith
couple set a few conditions. Most require a commitment
on the part of the couple to raise the children
as Jewish and that there would be no non-Jewish
clergy involved. Indeed, we found only a handful
of rabbis who would officiate at marriage ceremonies
of interfaith couples without any pre-conditions.
There also appears to be considerable division
within the Reform rabbinate, among whom thirty
six percent (36%) say they officiate
at the wedding ceremonies of interfaith couples
generally requiring that the couple commit to raising
any children from the marriage as Jews. The majority
of their Reform colleagues will not officiate at
the wedding of an interfaith couple, but "will
refer such couples to other rabbis who do officiate."
The willingness to officiate at the wedding ceremony
of an interfaith couple is most widely accepted
among Reconstructionist rabbis, of whom eighty
five percent (85%) say they officiate
at such weddings.
(2) Referral:
Although none of the Orthodox or Conservative rabbis
in the survey officiate at the weddings of interfaith
couples, about thirty-two percent (32%)
of Conservative rabbis say they "will refer
interfaith couples to other rabbis who will officiate
at an intermarriage." Such "referrals"
are contrary to the policy of the Rabbinical Assembly,
the official organization of the Conservative rabbinate.
Typically, the Conservative rabbis who are more
likely to make such referrals than their colleagues
are: women rather than men; rabbis working in the
West rather than the East. Despite their refusal
to perform intermarriages, a small minority (11%)
of Orthodox and, again, nearly a third (32%)
of Conservative rabbis refer interfaith couples
to other rabbis who officiate intermarriages. A
majority (69%) of those Reform and all Reconstructionist
rabbis who do not officiate at interfaith marriages
themselves refer interfaith couples to other rabbis
who do, as shown in Graph 2.
The referral pattern among the Conservative rabbis
in particular might help explain, at least in part,
the reason that Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis
are so much more likely to have a significant number
of congregants who are intermarried. In essence,
the Conservative rabbinate may well be exporting
that segment of their potential congregational population
through referral.
(3) Attendance at the interfaith wedding:
Although the great majority of rabbis do not officiate
at a wedding ceremony of an interfaith couple, how
do they handle attendance as guests?
As noted earlier, nearly sixty percent of
rabbis have cousins or other distant relatives who
are intermarried; nearly one quarter have siblings
who are intermarried. We asked respondents whether
they attended those family weddings. About forty
percent (40%) of the rabbis who do not
officiate at the wedding of an interfaith couple
said they did attend such family weddings: 13%
of the Orthodox, 23% of the Conservative,
75% of the Reform and 95% of the Reconstructionist.
On the other hand, when asked whether they "participated
in some way" in the wedding of congregants
or others who are interfaith, only twenty-one
percent (21%) did: 5% of the Conservative,
49% of the Reform and 60% of the Reconstructionist.
These statistics suggest that a significant percentage
of rabbis who decline to participate in the wedding
ceremonies of interfaith couples in an "official
capacity," are nevertheless willing to participate
as "guests" of the family. Indeed, they
are apparently more willing to do so when it is
clear that they are present at the wedding as a
member of the family rather than as "rabbi."
(4) Attitude:
The survey points in a variety of ways to the conclusion
that interfaith couples trigger conflicting feelings
in most rabbis. Therefore, rabbis have complicated
attitudes both toward interfaith marriage itself
and also toward those of their colleagues who responded
to couples differently from themselves. More than
a third (37%) of our respondents reported
feeling ambivalent ("often" or "sometimes")
about their own practice regarding officiation at
the weddings of interfaith couples. Of the majority
who do not officiate at such weddings, thirty-three
percent (33%) reported feeling ambivalent
about their stance, while among the minority who
do officiate at such weddings, fifty-nine
percent (59%) reported feeling ambivalent
about their stance on the issue.
The ambivalence felt by those rabbis who do not
officiate at the wedding ceremony or an interfaith
couple probably helps to explain the reason that
so many rabbis who do not officiate themselves at
such weddings nevertheless refer interfaith couples
to other rabbis who do. Yet, referral itself is
not necessarily a mark of approval for rabbis who
officiate at the weddings of interfaith couples.
For example, about one-third of Conservative
rabbis refer to interfaith couples to rabbis who
officiate; yet, none say they approve of rabbis
who do so.
As expected, all Orthodox and a large majority
of Conservative rabbis disapprove of other rabbis
who officiate at the marriage ceremony of interfaith
couples. Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis, who
are more likely as a group to perform intermarriages
are also more accepting of their colleagues who
officiate at such weddings. It is interesting to
note the level of neutrality toward officiating
colleagues expressed by ten percent (10%)
of Conservative rabbis who do not themselves officiate
at such weddings. Less surprising but no less interesting
is the extent of approval of or neutrality toward
those of their colleagues who officiate at interfaith
marriages expressed by Reform rabbis who do not
officiate. (See Graph 3)
The phenomenon of disapproval is at least somewhat
surprising as it is found also among Conservative
and Reform rabbis who refer interfaith couples to
those of their professional colleagues who will
officiate at those couples' wedding. Although eighty
six percent (86%) of Conservative rabbis
say they "disapprove" or "strongly
disapprove" of rabbis who officiate at the
wedding of an interfaith couple, thirty-two percent
(32%) make referrals to such rabbis. The
apparent ideological inconsistency seems to be present
as well among Reform rabbis. Although forty five
percent (45%) indicate that they "disapprove"
or "strongly disapprove" of their colleagues
who officiate, in fact sixty eight percent
(68%) refer interfaith couples to those other
rabbis. One explanation is the message that about
twenty percent (20%) of rabbis keep on transmitting
both to parents of interfaith couples and to interfaith
couples themselves. The message is the need to maintain
open communication, not to break relationship within
the family and let interfaith couples feel welcome
in the community.
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Does gender make a difference?
One of the major changes in the American rabbinate
of the past two decades is the increasing presence
of women in all branches but the Orthodox. This
is also the time period during which there has occurred
the greatest increase in interfaith marriages. Do
female rabbis differ from males in their encounters
with interfaith couples? Do they follow the footsteps
of their male counterparts? Do female practices
mirror their stream of Judaism, or do they follow
a distinct gender pattern?
At first glance, the data point to consensus by
gender regarding the decision not to perform marriage
ceremonies of interfaith couples. Focusing on non-Orthodox
rabbis (since there are no Orthodox female rabbis)
we find only minor and insignificant differences
between male and female rabbis on the decision not
to officiate at marriage ceremonies of interfaith
couples under any circumstance.
However, there are substantial attitudinal gaps
between male and female rabbis.
Despite their own practice, female rabbis are more
approving of those of their colleagues who officiate
at a Jewish marriage ceremony of interfaith couples
-- 30% compared with 17% of males. Female rabbis
are also more neutral and less judgmental than males
of other rabbis who perform intermarriages, as shown
in the table below.
Table 7
Attitude toward rabbis who officiate at intermarriages
by Sex of respondent (only non-Orthodox rabbis)
| Attitude |
Male |
Female |
| Approve |
17% |
30% |
| Neutral |
17% |
32% |
| Disapprove |
66% |
38% |
As might be expected based on the range of attitudes
shown in the table above, women rabbis who themselves
do not officiate at the wedding of an interfaith
couple are far more likely than their male counterparts
to refer interfaith couples to other rabbis who
do -- seventy-nine percent (79%)
of females compared with only forty-eight percent
(48%) of non-Orthodox male rabbis.
Regional Variations
There appear to be no significant regional differences
regarding the crucial issue of officiating at
marriage ceremonies of interfaith couples. Regardless
of their geography, about eighty percent
(80%) of rabbis do not officiate
intermarriages under any circumstance. However,
rabbis in the West tend to refer interfaith couples
to other rabbis who officiate intermarriages more
frequently than their counterparts in other regions
of the U.S. While sixty-three percent (63%)
of Western rabbis refer interfaith couples to
other rabbis, only 42-48% of rabbis in
other regions do so. The regional composition
of the various branches of Judaism, particularly
the fact that Orthodox congregations are concentrated
in the Northeast, need not concern us here, since
the referral question was asked only of those
rabbis who were not performing intermarriages.
Congregations in the West are far more likely
to reach-out and have special roles for non-Jewish
members. While sixty-two percent (62%)
of Western congregations provide such special
roles for non-Jewish members, only 49-51%
of congregations in the Northeast and in the South
do so. Conversely, in thirty-two percent
(32%) of the congregations in the Northeast
only the Jewish partner can have a role in religious
services, whereas in the Western and Southern
congregations only twenty-four percent
(24%) limit religious service participation
so strictly.
Outreach to interfaith couples
When first meeting with an interfaith couple
contemplating marriage, about seventy percent
(70%) of the rabbis in the present survey
say they recommend to the couple
participation in an outreach program for interfaith
couples.
The overwhelmingly majority (76%) of rabbis
are personally involved in offering outreach to
interfaith couples either in their congregation
or community. However, as illustrated by Graph
4, rabbis' perceptions regarding the benefits
of accommodating the needs of interfaith couples
differ sharply by their branch of Judaism. The
apparent differences are clearly the contrast
between the majority of Orthodox rabbis (68%)
who believe that their congregations have more
to lose by making greater efforts to accommodate
the needs of interfaith couples and the small
minority of rabbis from other streams who share
this opinion.
It is instructive to note that the majority of
Conservative rabbis (59%) believe their
congregation has more to gain than to lose by
accommodating the needs of interfaith couples.
Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis share similar
perceptions on this important matter in even higher
proportions (78% and 77% respectively).
What specific efforts congregations and rabbis
make to accommodate the needs of interfaith couples
varies considerably, from broad policy matters
such as burial rights in the synagogue cemetery
plot to ceremonial gestures at family life cycle
events. Again, with the exception of the Orthodox,
the great majority of Conservative, Reform and
Reconstructionist rabbis indicate that in their
congregations special efforts are made to include
non-Jewish family members in the celebration of
life cycle ceremonies. However, only a minority
less than twenty percent (20%) of
the Reform and the Reconstructionist and none
of the Conservative will allow a non-Jewish family
member to participate as fully in Jewish religious
services and in congregational life in general
as they would allow Jews.
Although none of the Orthodox synagogues represented
in this study by their rabbis carried wedding
announcements of an interfaith couple, twenty-six
percent (26%) of Conservative rabbis
reported that their synagogue bulletins do carry
such announcements; likewise ninety percent
(90%) of Reform and Reconstructionist
rabbis reported that their synagogue bulletins
carry such honorific announcements.
The inclination to accommodate and reach out
to the couple stands in sharp contrast to the
position associated with more traditional rabbinic
practice. For example, only a minority of Reform
(23%) and Reconstructionist (19%)
rabbis said they would discourage an interfaith
couple from getting married. Nearly all Orthodox
rabbis said they would offer such discouragement
to a young interfaith couple. However, among the
Conservative opinion was nearly evenly split,
with only 51% reporting that they would
attempt to discourage an interfaith marriage.
The apparent reluctance of a clear majority of
rabbinic to offer such discouragement stems from
a variety of sources, from fear of seeming narrow-minded
to a realization that they would not be heeded
in any event. Along similar lines, fewer than
twenty percent (20%) of Orthodox
rabbis said they would urge Jewish parents to
try to prevent the marriage and would discourage
them from attending the wedding of the couple.
The percentage of non-Orthodox rabbis who said
they would urge Jewish parents to try to prevent
an interfaith marriage was under 5%.
With the exception of the Orthodox rabbinate,
the great majority of American pulpit rabbis are
involved in offering "outreach services"
one kind or another to interfaith couples either
through their own synagogues or through participation
in joint programs with other synagogues or other
Jewish communal institutions.
Ambivalence & Attitude Change
We have seen earlier that more than a third to
half the rabbis surveyed feel some ambivalence
about their practice regarding officiation at
the wedding of interfaith couples -- whatever
their practice is. As the data from this study
suggest, there is a considerable soul-searching
going on among the majority of the American rabbinate
on the thorny issues of interfaith marriage. Nearly
half of the rabbis responding to the present survey
indicate that they have had a change of attitude
toward interfaith marriage sometime during their
career; for most the change has occurred in the
past ten years. Nearly half of our respondents
indicated that their attitudes toward intermarriage
were influenced by the 1990 National Jewish Population
Survey (NJPS): ten percent (10%)
felt they were strongly influenced by that study,
twenty-eight percent (28%) felt
somewhat strongly influenced and ten percent
(10%) were uncertain about how or whether
they were influenced by that study. Just a little
over half (52%) felt that their attitudes
toward intermarriage were not at all influenced
by the 1990 NJPS.
The change the great majority report is in the
direction of becoming more accepting of interfaith
couples. In all, forty three percent (43%)
of rabbis report that they have become more accepting
of interfaith couples, while only three percent
(3%) indicate they have become less accepting
of such couples. A slight majority report no change
in attitude. Among the rabbis who do report a
change in attitude (46% of our respondents),
for ninety three percent (93%) the
change reported is of having "become more
accepting of the intermarried." How this
greater acceptance is expressed in practice varies
greatly based on a wide variety of factors. While
most of Orthodox rabbis have not changed their
attitude over time, considerable proportions of
Conservative and Reform rabbis and the majority
of Reconstructionists became more accepting toward
intermarriage. Only a minority of rabbis of all
branches of Judaism became less accepting toward
intermarriage over time. (See Graph 5)
Perhaps the most telling indication how rabbis
feel about intermarriage is the manner in which
they address the subject from the pulpit. Our
respondents were asked six questions about how
they have addressed the issue of intermarriage
from their pulpit in the past two (2)
years. The table below summarizes their replies
to these questions. The percentage figures in
the cells represent the affirmative responses
to each question.
Table 8
Percentage of Rabbis Addressing Issues of Intermarriage
in Sermons
by Branch of Judaism
|
Issues Addressed
|
Orthodox |
Conservative |
Reform |
Reconstructionist |
| Have spoken against
intermarriage |
64 |
20 |
6 |
-- |
| Have spoken in
favor of Jewish marriage |
40 |
51 |
27 |
13 |
| Have spoken against
reaching out to interfaith |
8 |
7 |
4 |
-- |
| Have spoken in
favor of outreach programs |
12 |
64 |
56 |
50 |
| Have not addressed
the issue of intermarriage |
24 |
19 |
39 |
31 |
| Do not feel intermarriage
is appropriate topic for sermon |
8 |
6 |
15 |
6 |
As this table shows, very few rabbis in any
branch of Judaism feel that the subject of intermarriage
is not a suitable sermon topic. In fact, the
majority have addressed the subject at least
once in the past two years. Except for Orthodox
rabbis, the majority of whom have apparently
spoken out "against intermarriage,"
rabbis of the other branches of Judaism have
focused more on speaking "in favor of Jewish
marriage" and "in favor of outreach
programs." Of equal significance, while
a very large percentage of Orthodox rabbis have
spoken out against intermarriage, only a relatively
small percentage have spoken against programs
of outreach. Given the historic stance of the
mainstream of Judaism toward interfaith marriage,
these data reflect an enormous shift in the
cultural and religious perspectives of American
rabbis on this critical issue.
Conclusions
The attitudinal shifts reflected in the present
survey clearly echo some of the major findings
of earlier surveys by JOI concerning the attitudes
of Jewish leadership and the laity regarding
intermarriage, carried out in 1991 and 1992.
Those surveys showed a remarkably high degree
of consensus among all the branches of Judaism
in support of increasing efforts to reach out
to the intermarried population. Over 80%
of Orthodox Jews and over 90% of all
other Jews were in favor of such efforts. JOI's
1996 survey of Jewish communal professionals
likewise found overwhelming support for outreach
services geared to the needs of intermarried
families. This present survey of the American
rabbinate completes that general picture of
support for Jewish outreach.
In 1995 JOI conducted the first national survey
of intermarried regarding their awareness of
and attitude towards programs of Jewish outreach.
That survey showed that only a small percentage
of interfaith couples were aware of programs
of Jewish outreach.
Given the relatively small percentage of intermarried
couples in contemporary synagogues, there is
a very high probability that the great majority
of intermarried couples throughout the U.S.
are not aware of the tremendous changes going
on in the rabbinate with regard to the issues
that are of the greatest concern to such couples.
It would likely be of benefit to both the various
branches of the rabbinate and to the wider Jewish
community, and most especially to the multitude
of interfaith couples who are struggling with
their wedding concerns, if the practices, policies
and general thinking of the rabbinate were more
widely shared through public discourse.
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