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| bilsker | [ Profile - Edit Post - Poll ] | 2:22 pm on 1.18.2001 |
| I'm a Jewish youth professional in Chicago and I work with an unaffiliated youth group. Many of our members are from intermarried couples, and we strive/struggle to find innovative ways to facilitate discussion on the topic. The standard talking points are "if you love each other..." and "nobody can tell you who you should love/marry", which often produce heated but one-dimensional discussion. I believe that the issue first arises for the individual during adolescence -- religiously with bar/bat mitzvah, psychologically with the formation of identity, and emotionally with the beginning of relationships. Yet I haven't been able to find much discussion on the board about teen issues. Anyone out there have teenage children and have had discussion on the topic? Any good resources for teens that aren't too heavy? Any suggestions? First time post...Thanks for listening. Adam Bilsky
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| banana | [ Profile - Edit Post ] | 6:38 pm on 7.9.2001 |
so far it seems as though your discussion is limited to how the people feel about each other and the teens seem to be automatically assuming that there will be negative criticism (hence the automatic defense). i suggest opening up the discussions to find ways of solving the problems that they know arise. that way youre not only identifying the problems but actively working to find solutions and compromises as well. this will be especially helpful as it may resonate with the teens in your discussion group as they may be dealing with the repercussions of interfaith marriages as well.
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| Noidea | [ Profile - Edit Post ] | 6:33 pm on 7.10.2001 |
I love Banana's idea. If you want to throw out a real problem, you can use mine! ;-) I'm Christian, my hub is Jewish. It is almost impossible to teach the kids about Jesus in a Jewish household. My hub is very against the Christian doctrines that are being taught to the kids yet he won't take a strong role in the Jewish part of their upbringing. An interfaith relationship requires MANY compromises. Which ones are your teens willing to make?
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| ChannaLynn | [ Profile - Edit Post ] | 8:32 pm on 9.3.2001 |
I think that inter-dating is a hugely ignored topic. I (not-jewish, but planning on converting) once dated a Jewish boy. When we first met he told me he was only half jewish (his mother is Jewish, he had a bar mitzvah) and that he hated the jewish religion and didnt want to talk about it. Then later as we got more serious he constantly belittled me for my "morals" and yelled at me saying maybe one day ill have some Jewish in me. He did not know about my ideas of converting...and never will. He loved me and even talked about marriage the first day we met! For someone that was so "morally jewish" he certainly propose very quick. Not to mention he wasnt sure if he wanted to give himself (virginity) to me, when i hadn't even thought. I think there should be more posts about Jewish/ non-jewish dating because certainly that relationship could have used it
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| ChannaLynn | [ Profile - Edit Post ] | 8:32 pm on 9.3.2001 |
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